An 8,395 Day Perspective

I’ve been better and I’ve been worse in the last few months of this new year

I have loved a beautiful girl

I’ve had experiences and felt emotions that I thought I would never experience

I’m a lucky person for it, even though it’s now becoming a fleeting memory

It seems like the old saying is true after all, you end up getting what you need in each moment, not necessarily what you want…

You know, the idea of blogging is new to me, but I’ve been practicing the concept forever

I’ve been alive now for approximately +/- 8,395 days on mother Earth

For those that stink at math, that implies I’m around 23 years old currently (24 in July of this year)

I won’t imply that I’m some kind of sage or wise monk, but I have learned plenty in such short time and continue to learn new things daily

One trend I’m starting to pick up on is that, society’s best tool for teaching life lessons is hardship and struggle

As hardship and struggle are core pillars of my very being and continue to be one of the few things that’s consistent in life

Sometimes though this isn’t always a bad thing, as we as people need to be broken down from time to time, to be reminded that the best things in life we have to work hard to obtain and to keep, because we live in an unforgiving world, an imperfect world and in general, a world defined by struggle

Its only when we are at the brink, that we truly realize and accept our faults and become willing to change and evolve as people

It is because of this universal constant that is struggle, that I have learned to try and focus my energy on positivity rather than negativity

In other words, never beat yourself up too much when things go wrong, the world we live in is going to do a good enough job of that

Instead, take the time to understand your mistakes, do your best to mend your wrongs and take care to not repeat bad practices

You can’t control or stop everything from going awry, but you can choose how you will let these negative moments affect you and you can also prevent lots of additional unneeded grief

Being a shy, reserved and quiet child for most of my life has made me into a pretty observant person

You can learn a lot about people, life and yourself if you would every now and then just stop, listen and take in all that goes on around you

I’m not one who wishes he could go back and change things, as that’s totally fictional and is a waste of my energy, but I do wish I could have told myself the following:

Don’t be afraid of what you don’t know or the road less traveled

Don’t go through the motions wondering what if…what if I had given everything

Find a reason to smile and be happy, as that should be a basic daily goal for everyone no matter your situation

Even if you have to tell yourself the worse jokes, make fun of yourself, watch a funny movie, read a good book, unintentionally bash your funny bone into a wall, look back at pictures from your past and realize just how much of a confused, misguided geek you were, or listen to your favorite positive music every morning on the way to work/school and/or when your relaxing in bed after a long day

Put more effort into understanding your weaknesses, as Its in your weakness where you will find who you really are and what you’re really made of

So instead of covering them up, embrace them, work on them and invest in yourself, you’ll be better for it

Additionally, the more social I become, the more I start to realize that Im not so different from everyone else like I thought I was

We all have internal battles and issues that we have been struggling with since our first breaths on the Earth

We all seem to have this artificial fear of being our true selves in public, the feeling like we need to hide who we are to impress others or to fit in

We all want to be loved, wanted, admired and valuable in someone else’s eyes

We all want and need social interaction, it doesn’t matter how shy or introverted you are…trust me I know

We all want to explore and be adventurous, it’s the natural instincts of our ancestral past free flowing through our minds…a longing for self-discovery, free roaming exploration and admiration of this beautiful planet that we live on

Lastly, every now and then, when you start to feel lost and defeated, zoom out above the clouds and take a thirty-thousand-foot view of things and realize that there is so much more to life than the pain and suffering you currently might be going through

It’s going to always be hard to stay positive, when there are so many things trying to drag you down, but one thing I know for sure is that, up to this point…life’s been pretty good to me.